Archive | May, 2016

The Ever-Changing Family

31 May

Well, it has been a LONG time since I’ve posted to my blog – going on a year, it seems.  Part of the break was just, well, I needed a break, and part of it has been a total change in my career.  Rather than working in the city and having an hour morning and evening commute, I drive 18 minutes to work. I used to write on the train … and now no train.

That said, I do like my blog – it’s a great outlet for my mind, I constantly think of things I want to blog about, etc.  So, I’ll try to work in time to write every few days.  We’ll see how that goes.

There’s a ton happening in our lives – the biggest news is that our oldest son, Joel, has moved to California where he works at Tesla Motors.  His long time sweetheart, Jordan, joined him there after about six months and she also works at Tesla – and like young couples often do … they are getting married next summer!

So, after never having had a daughter – we’re getting one!  And she’s a real sweetheart – she and Joel are a wonderful couple.  She even has figured out how to get him to pick up his socks!

So, the title of this blog post is “The ever-changing family” – and that’s because even though it seems like family is the one constant in life, it is ever changing and ever evolving.  People are born, people die, people get married, have kids (sometimes not in that order), etc.  And our family has definitely changed.

Joel now lives in California – is he still part of the family? Yes, absolutely – and he calls us frequently, we text and email, etc. But it’s different not having him here. And when he’s here it’s different as well.

Alex is a full time student at Northern Illinois University – where he will be for another 2 years – so during the school year, he’s not here.  Again, very participatory in the family, but it’s different.

Brian, even though he lives at home and works and attends community college also has a changed role.  Summing it up, it feels like he’s more of a roommate than our son, and well, he’s an outstanding roommate.  I hope when he does eventually either go off to an away college experience or moves out because he’s working and financially stable, that whoever he rooms with enjoys him as much as we do.

But this past weekend, it was back to “the five of us” for one glorious long weekend.  What we did isn’t noteworthy to the story – if you’re friends with me on Facebook, you’ll see we barbecued, had fun with friends, went to the Indy 500 (the impetus for Joel’s home visit), saw family, etc. But what was noteworthy is that it was a rare “just the five of us” event. Most visits now include his fiancé, Jordan, and often we also include Alex’s longtime girlfriend, Liz. Our family has grown nicely. But to experience the “just us 5” thing one more time was an extra special treat. It’s possible it may not happen again – Joel gets married next summer. And that’s OK – we love our changed family dynamic.

So the moral of the story? Well, as I have blogged about numerous times before, there’s nothing more constant than change. You can fight it, you can hate it, etc., but it’s going to happen whether you want it to or not.

As I am fond of saying, on the rollercoaster that we call life, you can either hold on for dear life and pray you get through, or you can throw your hands in the air and scream at the top of your lungs in enjoyment.

As often as I possibly can be, I’m the guy with his hands in the air.

As you were,


(and I will make a concerted effort to get more blogging done)

From left – me, Brian, Robin, Alex and Joel


%d bloggers like this: